Holistic Psychologist

Join my private healing community here: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/ Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/ Complete transcript: phone just died. Oh no worries I have a charger, let me go grab it. Of course my phone just can't work I mean it died. Did I offend you in some way? Wait are you just ignoring me? If I said something or did something I'm really sorry. Are you just walking away? You good, I'm fine God just give me a minute I just woke up. Is everything okay ?No I work with a bunch of idiots and someone misplaced the file So typical. #emotionalbalance #relationships #realtionshipshorts #emotionalhealing #selfawareness
Are they emotionally unstable partner?
Join my private healing community. Enrollment CLOSES TODAY: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/ Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/ Immediate signs of emotional immaturity Complete transcript: Here's an immediate way you can find out if someone is emotionally immature. Notice how they react when they hurt you an emotionally immature person is going to say something like "I'm sorry you feel that way." Or "You're too sensitive." Or they might direct blame at you and say something like "Well I wouldn't have done this if you didn't overreact." Always focus on the other person so all of their responses are going to involve what the other person is doing this is called projection and it's a way that emotionally immature people deal with uncomfortable feelings they project their emotions out onto other people and really struggle with internal self-reflection they might also say something like "I was just joking." But genuine jokes don't need an explanation they naturally land and everyone involved finds them funny emotionally mature person is going to be able to apologize when they hurt you even if they don't agree with what you're saying they're going to be able to listen and be curious about why you were hurt then they're going to say things like "I can see why you were hurt in that situation." Or I'm sorry for the way that I acted i always want you to feel heard their response is going to focus on their own behavior not what you are or aren't doing this is called accountability and they're going to say what they'll do differently their words will actually match their actions so when they apologize you can actually trust that they'll do everything they can to avoid hurting you again in the future. #selfimprovement #maturity #emotionalintelligence #emotionalhealing #selfimprovement
Signs of emotional immaturity
Join my private healing community. Enrollment CLOSES TOMORROW. Click here to enroll now: https://selfhealerscircle.com Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal Emotionally immature parents Why some parents don't like their children or feel threatened by them Keypoints: 0:00 Intro: Why your parents don't like you as a person 0:30 Emotionally immature parents 1:58 Reasons why emotionally immature parents might not like their children 2:05 Your dependency 3:17 Your autonomy 4:27 Your curiosity and growth 5:50 Your takeaway from their focus 6:55 Your ability to form and maintain relationships 8:30 You are not alone 8:58 Share in the comments: How did your parents feel about you in childhood? #parenting #familydynamics #immature #parentingjourney #healingjourney
Why some parents don't like their children or feel threatened by them
Join my private healing community. Enrollment is CLOSING SOON! Spaces are limited and do sell out: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/ Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/ When an avoidant starts to withdraw Complete transcript: We live together, but I'm checked out of this relationship. What's going on actually don't know couldn't tell you. All I know is that this relationship feels like a full-time job; you're always asking me questions about what I feel and where I am . And it just feels so draining with the right person relationship should feel easy and this just doesn't. So, me asking about your feelings and wanting to know what you're up to is just a part of being in any relationship. It's not me being difficult. I get the feeling that you just want to come and go and do what you want and you don't want me asking any questions. It seems like you want me to just accept the bare minimum with a smile and at the same time, you just admitted that you're checked out of the relationship and I could sense that which is why I've asked you for a few months if something was up. And you told me that I was making a big deal out of nothing. Yeah, that's part of my pattern i'm really uncomfortable when you come to me and ask me about my feelings. Vulnerability is my biggest fear,r and I can't do direct communication. So I do something called deflection, where I try to make you the issue so that I can avoid my own feelings if you're the issue, then I don't have to look at the role I play in my relationships. #avoidantattachment #relationships #relationship #attachmentstyles #healing
When an avoidant starts to withdraw
Join my private healing community. Enrollment is NOW OPEN! Spaces are limited and do sell out: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/ Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/ Best way to deal with disrespect Complete transcript: When we grew up in homes with toxic or dysfunctional people we were unable to remove ourselves. We needed to be around those people to survive and this rewires our stress response so as adults instead of removing ourselves from dysfunctional people, we try even harder to get them to change or to treat us better. We tell ourselves all of these things like we need closure that we have to understand why they did what they did or we make up excuses for them. And in the process we blame ourselves. The best way to deal with disrespect or betrayal is to to fully remove yourself. What you didn't learn in childhood is that you are valuable access to you your thoughts and your emotions is not something that everyone deserves. Your role in life is not to teach people how to behave. It's not to get them to go to therapy or to understand that they have trauma that needs healing remove yourself give them the clearest message of all that disrespect means that they've lost all access to you you can move on without closure you can move on with self resect. #holistichealth #holistichealing #selfawareness #selfimprovement #healing
Best way to deal with disrespect
Join my private healing community. Enrollment is NOW OPEN! Spaces are limited and do sell out: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/ Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/ 3 signs of unhealed wounds Complete transcript: Here are three ways to know a person hasn't done healing work one they don't know their own coping mechanisms. It might be super clear to you that they use shopping or food or attention from other people to cope with their shame. Or the insecurities that they have but they're not aware of this all of us have coping mechanisms. But when we're not aware of them, we can't do the work to heal them and to learn better ways to cope. It's really important to have relationships with people who want to learn healthier ways to cope with life. They have a really low frustration tolerance; almost everything throws them off, even small things. They might be highly reactive or they might shut down for hours. Their reactions are really big and out of proportion. And you find yourself wondering why they had these reactions. The thing is we all feel frustration, but when we do healing work, we understand how our emotional reactions affect those around us. We take responsibility for that and learn how to handle things in healthier ways. In three situations, they're always pointing blame; their default is to blame everyone else around them. You notice in every story it's always their ex's fault a co-worker's fault or their friend's fault but they never talk about the role that they've played people who are doing the work don't look for who to blame they ask themselves, "What did I learn from this?" #healingfromtrauma #healingjourney #healing #copingmechanism #emotionalintelligence
3 signs of unhealed wounds
Join my private healing community. Enrollment is NOW OPEN! Spaces are limited and do sell out: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal Stop doing cold plunges Signs you might be in sympathetic overdrive Keypoints: 0:00 Sympathetic overdrive 1:31 What happens when you do a cold plunge 2:21 Signs you might be in sympathetic overdrive 2:25 Racing thoughts or anxiety 2:34 Trouble sleeping 2:42 Rapid heart rate/ shallow breathing 2:51 Tense or sore muscles 2:57 Feeling on edge, easily overwhelmed 3:01 Tight jaw and shoulders 3:10 Feel on the verge of tears all the time 3:31 Benefit more from warm bath 4:12 Consistency 4:25 Epsom salt/ magnesium 5:38 Know your body and nervous system 5:42 Share in the comments: How much different do you feel after a warm bath ? #coldplunge #coldplunges #nervoussystem #nervoussystemhealing #sympatheticnervoussystem
Signs you might be in sympathetic overdrive
Join my private healing community. Enrollment is NOW OPEN. Spaces are limited and do sell out: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/ Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/ Are they emotionally immature? Complete transcript: There's an immediate test to see a person's level of emotional maturity. You're going to sit them down and in a very calm way without any accusation you're going to tell them how their actions hurt or upset you. Then don't say anything at all just observe how they respond if they're emotionally mature they're going to be curious and open to what you're saying they're going to be calm and ask questions and their core desire is going to be to understand why you feel the way you do. If they're emotionally immature they're going to immediately get defensive they might start getting l out or shut you down. They might give you the silent treatment and they might even bring up something you've done wrong their core desire is to make your feelings wrong. So an emotionally mature person is trying to understand why you feel the way you do and an emotionally immature person is trying to make your feelings wrong because they can't cope with the emotional discomfort. #healingjourney #emotionalhealing #selfimprovement #emotionalintelligence #maturity
Are they emotionally immature?
Join my private healing community. Enrollment is NOW OPEN. Spaces are limited and do sell out: https://selfhealerscircle.com/ Order my books: "How To Be The Love You Seek" https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com "How to Meet Yourself" https://howtomeetyourself.com "How to Do the Work" https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/ Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/ No response is a response Complete transcript: Stop trying to explain it to them. Don't tell them how you feel over and over again. Go open your journal and write about it, or put it in your phone's notepad. They've lost access to your emotional world. You stay in your own power when you're quiet and confident, when you keep your nervous system regulated. No response is a response. Put on your shoes bring your headphones and go on a walk Walk off the urge to reply. #selfawareness #relationships #healthyrelationships #healing #selfhealing
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🌿 Dr. Nicole LePera – The Holistic Psychologist

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